Affair Recovery Counseling
Has your relationship been shaken by an affair?
Are you the hurt partner and having a hard time healing from the pain and trusting again?
You feel crazy because you can’t stop thinking about what your partner did to you. You find yourself checking their phone, not trusting their word. You wish you could get over it but the pain of what they did still hurts. You are seeking couples counseling for a space to recover from the pain and build a relationship with more transparency, security and respect.
Or maybe you are the one who had the affair.
You know your behavior damaged the relationship, but you don’t know how to fix your marriage. You are trying your best to make your partner trust you, but the affair keeps finding a way to resurface. You are likely grappling with guilt, shame, and frustration and asking yourself, “ Will it ever get better? Can we get past this?”.
An affair does not have to be the last chapter in your marriage.
There is hope.
Affair and Infidelity Counseling in South Carolina can help your marriage.
For many couples, the aftermath of an affair can feel earth-shattering and isolating. They try to move forward, but this often looks like rushing through the healing process and a list of unanswered questions from the hurt partner. Couples will likely stay together after an affair- but it is also common for couples to bury the pain and avoid the topic.
A Roadmap to Affair Recovery
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1. Crisis Phase
The initial disclosure or discovery of an affair can feel like a crisis. There are often multiple intense emotions- anger, sadness, denial, numbness, a sense of loss.
The hurt partner will need acknowledgment, remorse, and responsibility from the involved partner.
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2. Make Meaning
Couples can work together to create deeper meaning behind the affair. What did the affair mean to the Involved Partner? What were the motives?
During this phase, the couple is learning how to reconnect and handle the traumatic aftershocks.
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3. A New Vision
Not only can couples survive an affair- but they can thrive afterward. The marriage before the affair is gone and this allows an opportunity to transform into a new marriage that is full of transparency, respect, deep love, and commitment.
Hi, I’m Kayla
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist in Summerville, South Carolina. I provide a roadmap for marriages after an affair has been discovered.
I have specific training in Relational Life Therapy and Gottman Method Couples Therapy. I am also guided by Esther Perel’s work in infidelity.
You are Considering Affair Counseling But Have a Few Concerns
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You are not alone, this is such a normal worry. Many Involved Partners deeply care about healing from an affair but have never been taught how to do it. Involved partners often carry their own set of pain, guilt, and shame. My role is to walk alongside you and give you the tools to get you through this chapter. I do not treat Involved Partners as villains. I help to create a safe space for both people in the marriage.
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